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Love and An Inner Knowing
Inner Knowing, For many months in my previous partnership I struggled. Within me, when I got still and quiet, I knew that my soul had outgrown the relationship.
Feeling strongly attached to this person and fearful of losing the comforts and safety of our connection, my heart wasn’t quite ready to let go.
intuition An Inner Knowing
If I dropped into intuition there was a clear answer, an answer I avoided and pushed away. Instead, I kept going into my head to find and remind myself of the plentiful reasons to stay.
He was kind, gentle, sweet, caring, affectionate, accepting, stable, steady, grounding, responsible, and a good cook (I miss his fish tacos and macrobiotic bowls!).
Even though on a soul level I knew I’d have to leave, my head sought out the insights of my therapist, my mom, and an elder with whom I had bonded.
I sought counsel from self-help books and relationship experts. I took in any advice whether it was targeted to me or about relationships in general. In all of this,
I was looking for reasons to stay that would be strong enough to overcome the twisting and conflicted feeling inside that told me to move on.
I stayed with him for a year beyond what my inner guidance was telling me. I absolutely do not regret it. Following my intuition early on and ending the relationship when there was real, genuine care and comfort may have led me to worry that I had not tried hard enough to make things work.
The books, the conversations, the resources, and the counselling, all of it brought me to a place of acceptance. I had tried everything, given my all, and could leave the relationship knowing it was the right choice.
And I was building a muscle. A muscle of intuitive trust, so next time there will be a recognition, –oh *that*, I know that feeling…that feeling is telling me what is true.
To the tenderhearted, lovelorn, and longing: there’s tons of advice out there, books on relationship rules, and gurus sharing wisdom on love, but it probably won’t do you a bit of good.
People told me “stay!” because you can’t get all your needs met by one person. (I agree). People told me “leave!” because you are worthy of someone who really meets your non-negotiable needs.
(I agree). People told me that men aren’t that comfortable communicating about their feelings so I’m expecting too much. (Really disagree!) People told me to go, not to settle — there’s someone out there who wants to share their inner world with you.
(I optimistically say, hell yes!) My point is: it didn’t really matter what people said. There were so many conflicting voices and I could find what I wanted to hear, but the only voice that really knew was inner guidance and I wasn’t ready to listen until I was ready to listen. Same with you.
Get still and silent, drop-in, there is a knowing…oftentimes the head comes in and rationalizes, argues, and quiets that voice, but, really, truly, there is a knowing–of the next step, the deepest hunger within, your most authentic offering to the world at this moment.
Practice meditation An Inner Knowing
When we practice meditation and tune into ourselves, we can build more trust and attunement to inner guidance. Next time, it won’t take me so long to respond to the inner call.
Sending you to love wherever you are in your journey. When you listen within and are open to where inner guidance wants to take you then you are in the flow.
Yet even when you deny that voice you’re still on the path, and life will pull you into the wave of change even if you resist. Swim with the wave, breathe, love yourself all the way through.